Life Skills
In life you’re either growing or you’re dying. Our goal here is to try to help you grow as a person. If you’re here and reading this, we clearly see something in you and we picked you out of hundreds of applicants. Which means… You’re already awesome. Now we just want to add to you’re awesomeness and help you grow. Because if you grow as a person, you do better in life and work. And if you do that, we all win!
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Fault VS. Responsibility
In life, things are going to happen. Good things and bad things. Some times it’s our fault. Sometimes it’s not. Sometimes we play a role in the good things that happen. Sometimes we play a role in the bad things that happen.
But the key to this is whether something is your fault or not doesn’t really matter. What does matter is how you react and respond. You can’t control what happens to you in life generally speaking, but you and you alone are 100% in control of how you react and respond to things.
How you react and respond comes down to responsibility. What happens may not be your fault but how you react and respond is 100% your responsibility.
When first hearing this for most people it’s a hard pill to swallow and concept to grasp. But at the end of the day, it is the truth. Now normally people always jump to the absolute extreme when I chat with them about this concept.
Examples:
What if someone in my family passes? Not your fault. But how you respond to it is your responsibility. There’s tons of nuance to this example. But for the sake if it, do you comfort the people in your family who are also mourning? Do you sit at home for 4 weeks in a dark room sad and depressed? Do you use the story of their passing to help other people in life grieving?
What if someone commits a crime against me? You clearly have no control over this. But how you respond is your responsibility. Do you shut down and never go out again? Do you vow revenge and hold a grudge forever? Do you forgive them and their position in life? Do you use your experience to help people? Do you become a victim of this and let it run your life?
What if my friend talks bad about me? You may have something to do with this. Your “friend” may just be a crappy person? Not sure. Do you write a mean post about them? Talk bad about them to someone else? Cut them off? Confront them? It’s up to you. And you control it.
What my partner cheats on me? There’s lots of nuance with this one too. Maybe you had something to do with it. Maybe not. Do you get a divorce? Work on your marriage? Hate them forever? Forgive them? Blame the other person involved?
*Insert any other bad example of something happening
I hope you can see with all these examples that it may not be your fault. BUT, how you respond and react is 100% your responsibility.
And trust me, I get it, this is theory. And I don’t expect anyone to grasp this 100% by just reading this, but rather to merely plant a seed in your head about the difference between fault and responsibility.